Most of those who cause violent harm have endured chronic and severe harm themselves, dating back to childhood. Much of the harm they experienced in their lives occurred systemically and structurally but also within their surrounding communities — whether in their homes, schools and/or neighborhoods. 

“My dad got killed in front of me and my mom got hooked on drugs trying to cope with her pain. I went to school where my teachers called me a ‘bad kid’ and kicked me out for sleeping in class after being up all night with my baby sister. My neighbors gave me dirty looks and crossed the street when they saw me coming. I always felt like the community didn't like me.”

Trauma took their power, shredded their self esteem and led to perpetual feelings of fear, rejection, shame, anxiety, grief, etc. 

As a result of this group of survivors having had less protective factors to insulate them from the impact of such harm, the effects of their unresolved trauma often manifest into maladaptive (violent) behaviors. These behaviors include unsafe activities and dangerous lifestyles which restore their idea of power, connect them with negative peer groups to renew their sense of self-worth and belonging, make decisions that gain recognition (even if negative) while engaging in behaviors based on fear of being harmed (again) and/or perhaps seeking to numb their sadness and anxiety with substance use. 

While healing (and accountability) is a priority for this group of trauma survivors, their maladaptive violent behaviors have in turn severely traumatized their surrounding communities. 

“I go to sleep hearing gunshots and step over blood stained sidewalks outside my corner store. My kids can’t play outside because “they” are all out there smoking and hanging out all day. I’m scared to get car jacked so my heart starts racing every time I have to stop at a red light.” 

When asked, harm-doers often lack insight about how their actions truly hurt their fellow community members as they have normalized chronic community violence, especially after years of experiencing it themselves. But based on these hurtful actions, they often end up vilified, stigmatized and alienated by their communities. This collective rejection only exasperates the disconnect they already feel and their trauma-driven, defense mechanisms end up further dehumanizing those they live amongst. 

As a result, a “US versus THEM” dynamic becomes a cyclical issue; ultimately perpetuating violence as they are further pushed to the margins of the community.